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The One Reason You Won’t Reach Your Goals This Year

The One Reason You Won't Reach Your Goals This Year-- this makes so much sense and was totally true for me! Definitely worth the read! | goal setting, crush your goals, productivity, fear, comparison, New Year's resolutions

So I realize that that title of this post isn’t as uplifting or encouraging as “5 Easy Steps to Crush All of Your Goals This Year!” or something like that, but I’ve had something on my heart recently that I’ve sort of felt compelled to share. I always feel like these posts come out kind of raw and unrefined, so bear with me through that, but I hope that sharing my own experience might help others and resonate in their lives as well.

You see, for quite a while now– I’d say over a year– something has felt kind of “off” for me when it comes to blogging. I used to love it. I would look forward to doing the projects, writing the posts, interacting with people on social media… but I just wasn’t feeling that way anymore, and I couldn’t figure out why.

I wanted to still love it, but no matter how hard I tried or how many times I tried to change direction, I still felt this dread and lack of focus for most of the time I was doing blogging tasks. (And that is a good percentage of my time, so it wasn’t very fun!)

The One Reason You Won't Reach Your Goals This Year-- this makes so much sense and was totally true for me! Definitely worth the read! | goal setting, crush your goals, productivity, fear, comparison, New Year's resolutions, planning, lack of productivity

For over a year I have tried to get out of this “slump.” I thought that maybe I was burnt out. I tend to work a lot of hours and have for the 5 years I’ve had the blog, so maybe I was just tired. So I tried to rest and take some time off.

I thought maybe I was bored. Doing the same types of tasks day after day, year after year can make that happen, right? So we tried to switch it up. We started doing more videos and homed in on organization, which has always been my favorite topic to write/talk about. But still, that “off” feeling didn’t go away.

I thought that maybe I just didn’t have “it” anymore. Maybe after 5 years of blogging, I was out of ideas and didn’t have anything else to say.

But no matter what I tried or changed or adjusted, I couldn’t kick this “icky” feeling. It was really starting to worry me because blogging is what Donnie and I do as our full time jobs. I knew I couldn’t go on feeling this way about blogging forever, but I also knew that if we weren’t going to blog, we were going to have to make some other major changes when it came to jobs and employment, and I didn’t know that I wanted that either.

The One Reason You Won't Reach Your Goals This Year-- this makes so much sense and was totally true for me! Definitely worth the read! | goal setting, crush your goals, productivity, fear, comparison, New Year's resolutions, planning, lack of productivity, getting out of a slump

Then one day recently I sat down to write a blog post. The words wouldn’t come again, and I found myself feeling completely frustrated again. I vented to Donnie that I felt like giving up completely… and then the root of allllllll of these negative feelings and frustrations over the past year+ finally hit me.

It was fear

Fear that my posts weren’t going to be good enough or creative enough or helpful enough. Fear that someone was going to say something mean about my post or video. Fear that someone else was doing the same things that I was but doing it better. Fear that I don’t have anything helpful to offer. Fear that I’m not smart enough to make this whole blogging/business thing work. Fear that I was going to put something out there and that it was going to flop. Fear after fear after fear after fear.

And it was paralyzing me.

Sometimes fear is obvious. I get butterflies in my stomach about a certain situation, I feel tense, I think about and worry about the situation all the time. I know exactly what is scaring me and how I’m reacting to that fear.

Other times, though, fear is more sneaky. As it has for me this past year, it manifests itself in different ways. Self doubt. Frustration. Inaction. Comparison. (This is a BIG one for me. Comparison can make me feel inadequate, which translates into fear of not being good enough. I fall into this trap way too much!) I think sometimes I even use busy-ness to mask my fear, using the excuse that I don’t have time to do something when really I’m afraid to do it, so I put it off.

The One Reason You Won't Reach Your Goals This Year-- this makes so much sense and was totally true for me! Definitely worth the read! | goal setting, crush your goals, productivity, fear, comparison, New Year's resolutions, planning, lack of productivity, getting out of a slump, overcoming fear

The thing that’s crazy about this sneakier type of fear is that because I rely so much on my feelings and my feelings kept telling me “No, no, no! Run the other direction!” when it came to blogging, I came close to giving it up, to quitting altogether. And based on everything that has happened to get us to this point, I don’t think that would have been the right move.

But this fear thing doesn’t just happen with blogging. This sneaky type of fear has the ability to cause us to abandon good things, things we love, things that we’ve even been called to do. I think fear is THE thing that can keep us from reaching our biggest and most important goals, whatever they may be. It causes us to lie to ourselves, either telling ourselves that we don’t really want to do something or that we aren’t capable of doing it. Our self-preservation instincts kick in, and we end up running in the other direction. We even sabotage ourselves and get in the way of our own success because of fear. (Or at least I do. Maybe I’m the only one who does this?!)

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I wish I had some simple formula for banishing fear once and for all, but unfortunately, I don’t think that it is going away anytime soon. There will always be things that are hard and intimidating and that we need to push through. Facing those fears, having to tackle them head on even when we’re scared out of our minds, is something that we’ll have to do again and again and again if we want to continue to learn and grow as people.

But I have found that at least for me, it has helped to recognize that all of the doubts and uneasiness have had their root in fear. Because now that I’ve identified it, I feel like I can more easily identify the lies that I’ve been telling myself.

When I find myself thinking, “You’re not good enough,” a lot of that is coming out of fear and insecurity, not necessarily out of an accurate view of what I’m capable of.

When I find myself thinking, “You’re not smart enough to do this,” many times it’s because I have a fear of failing, and I actually do have the ability to figure it out. (Even if it’s not perfect right away!)

When I find myself thinking, “This is too hard. It requires too much work,” it’s often because it’s a big step that I’m afraid to take, not really because I’m unable to complete the task.

The One Reason You Won't Reach Your Goals This Year-- this makes so much sense and was totally true for me! Definitely worth the read! | goal setting, crush your goals, productivity, fear, comparison, New Year's resolutions, planning, lack of productivity, getting out of a slump, overcoming fear, punch fear in the face, do not fear

Since I’m stubborn, realizing that fear is the thing that’s holding me back fuels me to want to overcome it, to prove to myself that I can do it. I also know that when I push past the fear and do the thing anyway (whatever “the thing” may be at that moment), a tremendous sense of accomplishment results. I take a big leap toward that goal that I had set for myself, simply because I wouldn’t let fear get in the way. And that is an incredible feeling.

At this time of year when we’re making resolutions and setting goals and figuring out how to make 2018 our “best year yet,” my challenge to you (and let’s be honest, mostly to myself!) is not to let fear hold us back from all of those things that we are so capable of and so desperately want to accomplish.

You are enough. You are capable. It might not turn out exactly like you had envisioned, but it could be even better than anything you ever could have asked for or imagined.

I think that one of the fears that has crept up on me over the years has been sharing my faith on the blog. I worry that I might offend someone or that I might represent God or the scriptures wrongly or state something inaccurately. But I couldn’t end this post without adding this: I am a firm believer that God orchestrates our path and guides our steps according to His purposes so that He can use us to carry out His will. (Which, I have learned over the years, is always much wiser and better than mine, as much as I might try to fight it. 😉 )

As I’ve had my recent epiphany about fear, this verse from 2 Timothy 1:7 keeps playing over and over in my head: “for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” If God wants to use us for His purposes, He will equip us for that, so though we might feel intimidated, we really have no need to fear. In fact, we can have even more confidence because His will always succeeds. I don’t think this means that we’re always going to get what we want or that we’ll automatically meet every goal that we set for ourselves. But I do think that God wants His very best for us and that we can have tremendous hope and joy in that!

The One Reason You Won't Reach Your Goals This Year-- this makes so much sense and was totally true for me! Definitely worth the read! | goal setting, crush your goals, productivity, fear, comparison, New Year's resolutions, planning, lack of productivity, getting out of a slump, overcoming fear, punch fear in the face, do not fear, faith over fear

So I apologize if this was a bit of a ramble today. But sometimes the words just spill out, and however un-eloquent they may be, it felt like something that needed to be said. I hope that no matter what has happened in 2017 or in previous years to plant any little seeds of fear in you, that 2018 will be the year where we can start to say a big, loud “NO!” to all of those lies that our fear tries to tell us, that we can overcome those hesitations and insecurities, and that we can boldly pursue the goals and callings we set out to pursue.

Yes, it might be a bit scary, but I am so excited about the possibilities that could arise from a year of “punching fear in the face” (for lack of a better phrase) and passionately chasing those things that we have been created to do. Happy 2018!!!

277 Comments

  1. Thank you for your words of encouragement today, it was exactly what I needed to hear. It was an answer to my prayer. You have such wonderful gifts and talents…thank you for sharing your light! May God bless you.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your sweet words, Amy! I’m so glad it was helpful for you. Hugs, friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  2. Very well said, Abbey! This post hit a homerun with me and it was just what I needed to hear right now to start the new year. Much better than any goal setting post. I am bookmarking this to come back to whenever I feel that fear sneaking in again. Thank you so much!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Paula! Hope your year is off to a great start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  3. Linda-Ann Lloyd says:

    Hi Abby. Your post touched me profoundly today and spoke to me in so many ways. Thank You for your message, it could not have come at a better time for me!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      That is wonderful to hear! I’m so glad it was helpful for you! I hope 2018 is off to a wonderful start for you! <3

      ~Abby =)

  4. This was everything I’ve been also dealing with and just starting to take steps away from in the past year – fear. And I am not willing to let fear/lies hold me back from God’s purposes. Thank you so much for putting this out there and reminding me of God’s strength He provides. Instead of having a “word” for 2018, I am going to have 2 Tim 1:7.
    p.s. – I also struggle with letting my faith in Jesus be shown beyond fam/friends because of the same fears you wrote, so I know what you mean. I’d love to encourage you to go for it, and I’ll be striving to do the same this coming year. 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for the encouragement, Kelly! I hope your year is off to a fabulous start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  5. Micah | Home Faith Family says:

    Thank you for being so raw and open, Abby. I find that when God needs us to do something for Him we experience the most opposition because Satan knows the good we are capable of, and he’s scared of the eternal impact we can have on someone else’s life. I’m so excited for you to share your faith more in your blog and to see what our Father in Heaven has in store for you this year. Happy New Year my friend. =D

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You are so right! Thanks so much for the encouragement, Micah! I hope 2018 is a wonderful year for you!

      ~Abby =)

      1. Micah | Home Faith Family says:

        You’re so sweet, Abby. Thank you! =)

    2. Absolutely true! Love this reminder Micah! Thank you!

  6. Thank you for this post Abby, its just what I needed right now. Out of all the New Year’s posts and well wishes so far this tear, this one has helped me the most. I started a blog last year and it’s off to a slow start (I tell myself it’s because I work full-time, or I’m not capable of learning photography, or I’m not disciplined enough, or tech savvy enough), but I think I just need to “punch fear in the face” and go for it.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yes, Julie! Do it! 🙂 Sending hugs and wishing you all the best on your blogging journey! <3

      ~Abby =)

    2. Narkis Moshe says:

      Hey Julie, I saw your blog and just wanted to say it looks great! I liked it and it’s important to remember to be persistent. Keep going and eventually, you’ll find the right way. Skill is something that we can build with time. I’m going through similar things with my own blog but we have to stick with it 😉 Good luck!!

      1. Thank you Narkis, I appreciate the encouragement. I agree, persistence is definitely a key to learning new things. I checked out your blog (I love your Home page picture) and followed you on Instagram. Here’s to growing in 2018!

  7. Ginger Weseloh says:

    This was a wonderful post, thanks for being BRAVE enough to write it 🙂 This has been the theme of my last year too (burn out included and fear of what that meant). To sound like a complete crazy person, if this blog wasn’t published for anyone else out there it was at least published for me. I bought your ebook months ago, after being too afraid to admit I wanted to be a blogger for the past 4 years, and I got scared. Like really scared. I just decided to jump in and make it happen last week, I opened the book back up today again and got scared again. (I’m a wimp apparently!) After not clicking on your blog for a few months I decided to check in today, and I’m SO very glad I did.

    (Also, have you read Goliath Must Fall? You might find it really helpful for tackling fear!)

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw thank you so much for your encouraging words, Ginger! I’m excited to see what you do with your blog! I have not read Goliath Must Fall, but I just added it to my reading list– thanks for the recommendation! Have a great day!

      ~Abby =)

      1. Ginger Weseloh says:

        When I get my blog launched I’ll send you the link to check out – fingers crossed! Have a good day (and thanks for replying to my comment!)

  8. Well I think that was a lovely post Abby … thank you! I am starting my blog this year, come whatever … and the bible verse you quoted is a very good piece of inspiration!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Tess! Wishing you the best on your blogging journey… enjoy! <3

      ~Abby =)

  9. Carrie Willard says:

    You are definitely not the only one! Unafraid is one of my words for the year. My actual one word is FOCUS… it’s an acronym, and the U stands for Unafraid. I do things SCARED every single day, especially since starting a new business 8 months ago. But my life is so much better for it!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You go girl! It sounds like you are ready to take on 2018! Hope it’s off to a great start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  10. Abby, thank you for this post! I always tell my two boys, “don’t let fear rule your world” but still sometimes I find myself letting fear hold me back, especially as a new blogger! It’s nice to know I’m not alone 🙂 But I think you should know that today, I posted all about how important Building a Framework was to me in helping me get started with my blog (which is an absolute joy for me to work on) and I definitely couldn’t have started my blog without you! Total coincidence- I clicked over to your post after I had published mine! Just wanted to let you know that even on the hard, not-so-fun days, you’re making a difference! 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Oh, Beth! You are the sweetest! Thanks so much for the encouragement! I’m thrilled that Building a Framework was so helpful for you. I hope 2018 is off to a wonderful start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  11. Thank you for this! Very timely for me, as I’m entering into a new season of life. Good reminder that fear can incapacitate us but with God’s help we can overcome!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Amen, Alycia! So glad it was helpful for you and am wishing you the best in 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  12. Amanda Flack says:

    Thank you for sharing this. This is what I have been going through but have not been able to really nail it down. This “hit the nail on the head, “so to speak, and has given me some ideas to help figure out the root of my fears and how to address them! Thank you for being you!!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Amanda! Sending hugs your way and wishing you a wonderful 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  13. Tina Burkley says:

    Wow! Just what I needed today. I needed the reminder that God will help me face my fears. I just need to trust. You opened your heart and I pray that God will move mightily in your life to fight your fears. Thank you for sharing your faith. Also, the verse you quoted, 2 Timothy 1:7, is the verse I chose for this year and I have written it in my planner to remind me of God’s goodness.

    Praying God’s blessing on you and your family this year and always.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Tina! I hope you have a truly blessed 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  14. Abby, you’re doing wonderfully! You’ve put so much into your blog and it shows! You’re a beautiful soul, wonderful mom and eloquent blogger 🙂 And I’m so happy you shared your love for Christ! Go girl! 🙂

    This little 5 second tip may help you when you feel scared and afraid – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Lz0VOltZKA

    Hugs!!
    Suzi

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much, Suzi! And thanks for the link– love that tip!! Have a great day!

      ~Abby =)

  15. Christine says:

    Is this a good place for me to chime in and say “me too!!!”? I’ve felt this way for so long, like I have nothing new to give because everyone on Pinterest has already seen how to organize kid’s toys or a craft room. What’s left? I’m neither the first nor the best, so why would anyone bother?

    I’ve admired your blog for years. Knowing how much success you have and how you struggle with the same doubts is incredibly compelling. Perhaps I’m not as lame as I feel. If you can power through this, perhaps I can power through as well.

    Thank you for sharing and good luck this year. I’m sure that whatever you write will be wonderful.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You are certainly not lame, Christine! Sending you hugs and wishing you all the best as you share your heart and talents on your blog this year. You can do it! <3

      ~Abby =)

  16. Abby… I could’ve written this myself. I’ve just begun my own blog in the past few days and these thoughts… It’s all fear. You’ve inspired me to begin my blog, to work from home, to organize. You are an inspiration to me and so many others. Thank you for writing this and acknowledging the struggle even for someone with a lot if experience. And you are a blessing sharing your faith here too. It can be scary sometimes. I’ll be praying for you. I look forward to all of your posts and videos. Thank you for all you do!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      I’m so glad it was helpful for you, Katie! Wishing you all the best on your blogging adventure… enjoy the journey! <3

      ~Abby =)

  17. Thank you for such an honest and vulnerable post! Also, I’m not a religious person but I would never be offended by you speaking/writing about your faith. It’s part of you and to paraphrase you, that is enough. Anyone who is offended has bigger issues! ?

    So, here’s a shot of courage for us all to overcome our fears and achieve!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for the encouragement, Shannon! I hope 2018 is off to a wonderful start for you! <3

      ~Abby =)

  18. Thank you so much for writing this post. This resonated with me in a BIG way and I feel comforted knowing that at least one other person has had this struggle. ? While my fears are keeping me from different pursuits this made perfect sense to me. I am so glad you haven’t let your fears keep you from continuing your blog. I think your blog is fantastic and I always look forward to your posts. Please keep them coming!!! Much luck to you in 2018!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for the encouragement, Rebecca! I’m glad this post was helpful for you! Hope your year is off to an awesome start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  19. I love this so much! It’s exactly what has been running through my mind in the past few weeks. Some big changes coming for me and my family this year… but I’m ready to jump forward and not be afraid. Thanks for posting!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Rachel! Sounds like you have an exciting year coming up… wishing you all the best! <3

      ~Abby =)

  20. Well said! Facing our fears is a huge challenge, but once you’ve done that – you can finally go beyond. Thank-you.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Amen! 🙂 Hope you’re having a great week, Irene!

      ~Abby =)

  21. Hi Abby. Your post VERY eloquently speaks to my own issues with procrastination. I am an “expert” procrastinator! Over the years I have come up with a theory that the reason I procrastinate so “well”, is if I have a million little things on my to-do list, I always have an excuse not to tackle the big scary things that need sorting out (that are never quite as big and scary once you knuckle down and face them head on). Only problem is, I’m putting my life on hold until everything is perfectly done/completed, and I’m missing out on life! To say nothing of setting a terrible example for my kids. Here’s hoping, this self-awareness and self-reflection, along with your inspirational blog posts, and this one in particular, will give me the impetus to change things up and help me have an awesome 2018 too. Don’t stop doing what you’re doing – I truly love reading your posts. Cheers from NZ, Deirdre

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for your openness and honesty, Deirdre! I love this time of year as we’re able to self-reflect, learn, grow, and strive to make changes in our life for the better! Wishing you a fabulous (and productive!) 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

    2. Deirdre, you and I must have been twins separated at birth! I have those exact same paralyzing issues. I fill my “to do” list with the smallest, mundane things that keep me too busy to tackle the big, important things. Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone. That gives me strength to feel somewhat “normal” in my procrastination and will help me push past this stumbling block. Thanks for the uplift!! Best wishes for a fabulous 2018!

    3. Abby, thank you for having the courage to do what you do! I have wanted to blog for many years now, but until I discovered you last year, I didnt think I could do it. Now, I just need to get this baby of the ground. . . but there’s the fear factor! Thank you for this post! I’m ready to get up and make 2018 my year to face and conquer all these new challenges. My father always taught me that faith, not courage, was the opposite of fear. Courage is the strength you receive from God when you exhibit a little faith and let Him guide you. God bless you and your family this year! Thanks for reminding me that I just needed a little faith! Love ya, kiddo!

      1. justagirlabby says:

        Aw, thank you so much for the encouragement, Jill! You are so right! Wishing you the best on your blogging journey! Hugs, friend! <3

        ~Abby =)

  22. Abby…thank you so much for this post. You can’t imagine how much I recognised myself in your words. I’m scared people will find my post silly or worse, I’m scared nobody will find useful or interesting my contents or ideas…It’so calming and relaxing to remember that not everything is in our hands, and even if we still have to work hard, there’s Someone who is taking care of us. Thanks again and…have a great 2018 you guys :-)!!!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Silvia! Wishing you all the best in 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  23. HI Abby, thank you so much for being so raw and real. God has been teaching me so much about fear and myself over the last year.
    We need more Christain bloggers ( not famous well-known ones), I live in Australia and I don’t find much down here. There is some fabulous Christian blogger In US. I think people just want us I to be who we are and so does God. If they don’t agree they just won’t listen or be friends with us, just like in everyday life
    Whenever I fell anxious or feel that fear overtaking me I speak that verse that you quoted. Its a journey and I pray God bless you abundantly and give you a spirit of boldness. Just love your website and youtube channel, I have been following you for a couple of years now.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your sweet words and encouragement, Lara! I hope your year is off to a fabulous start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  24. I can’t believe no one has commented yet! I appreciate your honesty (and even your “rambling”!) here. I’ve long looked up to you, thought you and your blog and business were everything I want for myself. And to hear that, yes, you struggle with fear and insecurity and dread, too? It helps me. It reminds me that those emotions will never magically go away. That all you can really do is keep going, don’t let it stop you, and rely on God (that one should have led this list, haha). Thank you so much for sharing your own struggles! It really does help. ❤

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for the encouragement, Nicole! I’m so glad it was helpful for you! Hope 2018 is off to a fabulous start for you! <3

      ~Abby =)

  25. Jill Flory says:

    Oh my but I’ve been there and sometimes still am! I have let fear drag me down many times over the past couple of years
    I had my own break through this year in October and have been making headway at pushing through and telling satan to take a hike!! Good luck

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You go girl! Sending hugs and wishing you all the best in 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  26. Thanks for sharing, Abby. Fear stops us from so many things but we have to remember that fear doesn’t speak the truth. I’m really glad that you’re going to continue blogging because you’re kind of my blogging hero!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thank you so much, Kim! Wishing you a wonderful 2018!! <3

      ~Abby =)

  27. Sarah | The Teacher's Wife says:

    I think you are right on, Abby! I tend to be a perfectionist and I believe that relates a bit to fear. If I don’t feel I can get it done perfectly, then I tend to not try. I need to work on this big time! Thanks for sharing!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Sarah! Hope your year is off to a wonderful start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  28. Laurie Parks says:

    Abby,
    You couldn’t have written this blog at a more influential time for me! I think we may be sisters. LOL. I create excuses, do housework, even cook, to procrastinate working on my new blog because I really don’t know what I am doing yet. I can handle the writing so far, but I just don’t have enough education & experience on the technical aspects of WordPress, Hover, Yoast, Themes, Child Themes, etc… It’s overwhelming when you don’t really understand what does what and how to make it look like you want it too. I used your blog guidelines to get started and you have been a great inspiration to me and very helpful to answer my questions. The FEAR for me now is taking it to the next level and how to juggle posting and more training, while working full time. FEAR, because I don’t know enough to do this. FEAR that I will mess up. FEAR that “So Many Somedays” will pass by and I’ll still be trying to get started or I’ll just give it up.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Oh, Laurie! I am sending hugs your way, my friend! I know how overwhelming it can be at the beginning. It certainly was for me. Just remember “baby steps”. Get better at something everyday. It’s impossible (especially when working full time) to learn and know everything quickly. Give yourself some grace and try to enjoy the journey! Wishing you all the best! <3

      ~Abby =)

      1. Abby,
        You are such a sweet encourager. From reading the other comments, many others are experiencing the same issues and you certainly hit the nail on the head. Thanks so much!

        1. justagirlabby says:

          Aw, thank you so much for the encouragement, Laurie! I’m glad it was helpful for you. Hope you’re having a wonderful week! <3

          ~Abby =)

  29. Wow. This really hit home for me. I spent most of 2017 “learning how to blog” when I think I was just using that as a crutch to hide my fear of putting myself out there! Thank you Abby! Ramble post or not, it was so so so inspiring.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, I’m so glad it was helpful for you, Danielle! Wishing you the best on your blogging journey… you can do it!! <3

      ~Abby =)

  30. Thank you for writing this post! You are the blogger that I have followed and I modeled my own blogging business after yours! I have feared blogging and I have been afraid to put it out there because I felt not good enough, not creative enough, like an imposter, etc. Your words helped encouraged me as I set my blogging goals for 2018. I hope you continue to blog because I love your posts and my house is way more organized now! 🙂 Plus I have a blog and am working on my dream because of your blog. Thank you!!! Happy 2018!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for your kind words, Casey! I’m glad it was helpful for you! Sending hugs and wishing you the best on your blogging journey! <3

      ~Abby =)

  31. Awwee, this was such a sweet read. Thank you for sharing. It is soooo hard to put aside those fears, as you’ve seen they can be paralyzing. But I am so thankful you are continuing your blog! I love to read it and even though I am on your email list, I jump on to see if there is anything new.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You are so sweet, Ariel! Thank you so much for your kind words! <3

      ~Abby =)

  32. Abby, you got me right in the feels ❤️ I have been struggling with taking the plunge to start my blog for a year. I even took your course on it! Still haven’t told anyone it exists. Thank you so much for ending on a Godly note. I actually have a tattoo that is intended to remind me of that exact verse in 1 Timothy!! You’re so right, fear IS paralyzing. Thanks so much for the reminder that it doesn’t have to control you. ❤️❤️

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your encouraging words, Jazmynn! It can be intimidating to get started with blogging, but pushing through the fear is definitely worth it with all of the benefits! 🙂 Hope you’re having a great week!

      ~Abby =)

  33. Karen Hobson says:

    I love your blogs and they are exactly what I need and enjoy reading. Today’s, however, was exactly how I feel most of the time. I think we all feel the way you have for the past year at some point in our lives. I don’t have my own business because of fear – that, and my abilities do not match my passions! 🙂
    I’ve lost my motivation to come home from work at night and go go go like I used to. I used to be the energizer bunny….my 9 year older sister always said “wait until you’re my age!” Well, I’m 52 and she’s right….my batteries run down much quicker now. However, watching your organizing videos has re-energized me. I cleaned off 3 bathroom shelves and cleaned out one drawer New Year’s Day. That’s a start, right??

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw thank you so much for your kind words, Karen! Sounds like you’re off to a great start with your organizing! 🙂 Hope you’re having a wonderful week!

      ~Abby =)

  34. Celine B. says:

    I only discovered your blog in early 2017, and it has been completely inspirational and transformative for me – so my jaw drops with disbelief to read that this was challenging period of time for you! Allow me to tell you: what you do makes a difference. I think of just all the changes in my own home as a result of your blog (my jewelry organizers, make up trays, shelf space, AND MY GOODNESS YOU SHOULD SEE MY PANTRY nothing but labeled baskets as far as the eye can see). These aren’t trivial things – these actually transform the way I think about and take care of my home – and enhance my nurturing of the people living in it. Multiply that by all your readers – I’m sure your impact is much deeper than you think.

    I’ll also add: I am not a Christian person, in fact I’m sure if we had coffee together we’d find our beliefs to be polar opposite! Whether you decide to write more about your own faith, this is your personal choice and you will make the decisions that are best for you, your family, your business. I can only speak for myself, but as one of your loyal decor and organizing readers, mentioning of religious beliefs that are different than mine is not something I am offended by. I’ll end by repeating what I was screaming on the inside as I read your post today: what you do makes a difference! All caps so you know i really mean it…WHAT YOU DO MAKES A DIFFERENCE 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Celine, thank you so, so much for your kind and encouraging words! That really means a lot! <3

      (And woohoo for a labeled pantry! Sounds like it turned out beautifully!) Have a great day!

      ~Abby =)

  35. Thank you for your post, Abby! I’m so glad that you are fighting through the “fear” and continuing to develop content because I appreciate what you do! You are an inspiration! Your post is timely because I am fighting through fear of starting my blog. I’m doing my best to shift from fear to fun. Working on it! Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. Cheers!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your kind words, Lleslle! Best of luck with your blog– you’ve got this! 🙂

      ~Abby =)

  36. Saphia Louise says:

    Wow. This was a post that I definitely needed to come across. I thank you for your vulnerability and for sharing something that so many of us may be going through but are struggling to understand or accept. For me, it’s the same with my blog. I have felt like things were off and that stems from the fear I have of performing for people. Writing has always been my therapy. Even with my poetry, I allowed the fear of well, maybe the next poem that I perform won’t do well, so I should just take a step back. Your post has really encouraged me and I pray that I can remain in this feeling and apply it to my blog.

    Thanks!
    Saphia Louise

    http://www.LifeWithSaph.com
    Faith + Travel + Lifestyle

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your kind words, Saphia! Writing has always been my therapy too– I totally get it! Best of luck with your blog. You can do this! <3

      ~Abby =)

  37. This is SUPER comforting to read <3
    As a newbie blogger, fear is a common every day emotion for me, and for many of the exact same reasons you have mentioned above.. Knowing that even a successful blogger such as yourself still struggles with the same fears as a beginner blogger kind of puts things in perspective. No matter where we are in our blogging journey, or any journey in life, we all share in the same day to day emotions, good or bad.

    Thank you for sharing. You're amazing 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You are the sweetest, Amanda! Thank you so much for your encouraging words! Hope you’re having a wonderful week!

      ~Abby =)

  38. This was EXACTLY what I needed to read Abby!!! Thank you for your honesty!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw thank you so much for your sweet words, Laurie! That really means a lot! Have a great week!

      ~Abby =)

  39. Abby, I loved this post. Fear is so powerful and can easily turn into such ugliness like you mentioned. Thanks for sharing your encouraging thoughts and His Truth!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much, Miranda! I’m glad you enjoyed it. I hope your 2018 is off to a great start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  40. Abby,
    Thanks so much for this honest post! I started my little blog in 2017 and have let my fears and insecurities hold me back. I’m pretty sure I closed my eyes and held my breath the few times I actually pressed publish 🙂 All because I had the same fears you mentioned, these posts are good enough, no one cares what I have to say, don’t promote the blog because then people will …gasp…actually read what I’ve written! Honestly, this “not good enough” fear hasn’t just impacted my blog but, looking back it’s fear that has kept me from doing so many things.
    This past year I’ve realized that the Pinterest Perfect, Facebook Fantastic lives that I convince myself that every other woman on the planet is living except me … is a lie. Not that those mediums are bad, just that no one is perfect and as I’ve been so blessed to see that when I’ve been more vulnerable and open, others are too. And you know what? Most of us are all carrying around those same insecurities and fears.

    Here’s to a Fearless 2018!

    ~Andi

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Preach, sister! Sending hugs and wishing you all the best in 2018! You can do it! <3

      ~Abby =)

  41. Thank you for this post. Yesterday morning someone encouraged me to apply for a new position in my company. I blew them off, but the wheels started to turn. I read this post and realized fear was holding me back. This morning I applied for the position. I don’t know if I will get it, but I overcame a fear I didn’t even realize I was holding on to.

    Then, my husband showed me a facebook advertisement for a guest blogger in my niche. Without hesitation, I again kicked fear in the face and submitted my application. I have always wanted to be a guest blogger, but I never felt I had the expertise or following to even be worthy. Again, I don’t know if I will get the gig, but I kicked fear to the curb and went after it. God knew exactly what I needed yesterday, and this morning, and he used your words to help me overcome my fears. Thank you!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Heather! Your sweet comment totally made my day! Thank you so much for sharing your story with me! I am so thrilled for you for kicking fear in the face and going for it on both counts! No matter what comes of it, you should be so proud of yourself– I have a feeling that 2018 is going to be a great year for you! Sending you all sorts of high fives from over here in PA! 🙂

      ~Abby =)

  42. Christy Fore says:

    “Who cares what I have to say?”
    “Someone else is already doing this… and better.”
    “Blogging. In your authentic voice? With your opinions? No no. That’s be like standing nekked on your front porch! Toooo vulnerable!”
    “Just a little more content.. the next post will be better. It has to be perfect before you actually launch, start promoting it.”

    Fear. ?

    One word. Courage.

    That’s what YOU’VE given me – with posts you probably wrote 1-2 years ago. You have to start somewhere. So I started. 2018 Goal: Launch Blog. Done. ☑️

    Thank you, Abby (and Donnie) for Courage (with a Capital C)!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yay!!! You go girl! Sending hugs and wishing you all the best on your blogging journey! <3

      ~Abby =)

  43. As one of your followers who is not religious, I admire your courage to speak about it through your blog. And I’m excited to see the changes that come through your life and creativity by conquering and owning this fear.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You are too sweet! Thanks so much for the encouragement, Em! Hope you’re having an awesome weekend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  44. Danna Ridge says:

    This is one of the best blog posts I have ever read. I appreciate you allowing yourself to be vulnerable through your honestly and transparency. I truly feel that I was guided to this post today so that I could internalize your message! Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for sharing!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You are too sweet, Danna! Thanks so much for the encouragement. I’m so glad it was helpful for you! Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  45. YES! *Fist punch fist punch* outstanding and so helpful. Thank you!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Jena! Wishing you a wonderful 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  46. Jocelyn Troell says:

    I have been following your blog regularly for the past two years because A.) I love your organization tips and B.) You have such a sweet spirit about you and your blog. This post was particularly powerful! Thank you for being open and vulnerable because in those moments God can use you to speak to and help many, many other people. May the Lord give you a blessed and fruitful year!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for the encouragement, Jocelyn! I’m so glad it was helpful for you. Wishing you all the best in 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  47. Beth at Unskinny Boppy says:

    Abby, you have nailed my feelings as well. I have been blogging for a very long time and I used to not care one whit what people thought about me or my life. I just put it all out there and felt like nobody was reading it. Then once it became more popular I started following the crowds more and worrying if I was blogging the “right” way. Now that I’m supposedly a fulltime blogger I”m paralyzed by the fear and overwhelm of it all. I rarely share feelings posts anymore. I really need to get back to doing that because those are the posts that really resonate with people, not how my mantel is decorated.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yes, girl! I know how hard it can be to share your heart, but you’re right! Readers follow you because they like your pretty decorations, but even more because they connect with you! Wishing you all the best (and lots of courage!) in 2018! You can do it! <3

      ~Abby =)

  48. This was spot on & awesome thank you Abby for being transparent. Your blog and website was the foundation for my blog but I have since moved onto becoming a Forgiveness & Lifestyle Coach. I appreciate this post more than you know!!!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Micah! Thanks so much for reading. Hope your year is off to a great start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  49. Such a touching post! It was like you were literally taking the words out of my mouth. This is something I have been struggling with lately, letting fear get in the way before I even started. Ive had a dream to start my own interior design business and haven’t acted on it because I’m fearful of failing. I decided I can’t let that happen anymore, this is the year when I pursue that passion the Lord has put on my heart. I’ve just got to say “Not today Devil!!”. The fear comes from him and he is not the leader of my life, the Lord is! Glad to know we can walk through this together!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      YES! Sending hugs and praying for you on your exciting journey! Have an awesome 2018, Taylor! <3

      ~Abby =)

  50. Thank you so much for sharing your insight and faith! I really connected with everything you said. I’ve been an English teacher for 23 years and almost have my blog up and running with the exception of writing that 1st post. It’s the fear of failure holding me back! You’re so right God has made us all capable of much more than we can imagine. He has guided me this far now I will have to let Him inspire my words.
    Thank you Abby!!
    Amy

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for reading, Amy! Sending hugs and wishing you all the best on your blogging journey! You can do it! <3

      ~Abby =)

  51. Great post, Abby! You’re definitely not the only one who struggles with fear- it’s one of my biggest challenges! And that verse in 2 Timothy has been one I say to myself over and over again when I feel the fear coming on! Thanks for sharing this! Praying that God would help us replace our fears with faith and trust in Him! ?

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Amen, sister! Thanks so much for the encouragement! Hope 2018 is off to a wonderful start for you, Joanna!

      ~Abby =)

  52. Willy Burden says:

    Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your perspective about fear, Abby. It was so encouraging! I like what you said about fear can be paralyzing and we mask fear by doing busy things, maybe things that don’t really get us to our real goals. So true!! I’ve been in that place for too long. That’s why I’m now going through “Building a Framework” and moving towards my goal of launching my blog one day at a time. Scary as it may feel, I’m doing it because I don’t want to be held back by fear anymore. So, you go girl! And keep blazing the trail for the rest of us! It means more than you know. ❤️

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yay! Cheering you on as you embark on your blogging journey! Enjoy the ride! You can do it!

      ~Abby =)

  53. Linda Fleit says:

    Oh Abby, you are such an inspiration. When I first started reading your blog and got involved with your blogging course, I must admit that, at age 70, I wondered what I could really learn from someone so much younger and with such different life experiences. But you have taught me so much! And this latest post about fear, beautifully written, heartfelt and honest, was wonderful. I just launched my own blog and recognize in myself so many of the same fear-based symptoms. We can’t ever be completely free of fear — after all, sometimes it’s useful, such as when we run away from a bear — but we can recognize it, deal with it, and use it to propel us forward. Thank you so much.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thanks so much for the encouragement, Linda! I really appreciate it! Sending hugs and wishing you all the best on your blogging journey! <3

      ~Abby =)

  54. It seems like you really hit on what is an intense struggle for so many of us. I join in with the other comments that this is just what I needed to hear…er, read! Fear – not an in-your-face kind, but a subtle, quiet, self-doubting kind – keeps me from so many things. Being able to identify it is the first step to fighting back. I think I will print out your post and keep it in my planner each time I try to find something else to keep me from taking that next step to accomplish my goals. Blessings to you and your family in this New Year!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, good! I’m so glad it was helpful for you, Emily! Wishing you a wonderful 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  55. Abby,
    I’ve been a long-time reader but never posted before. I’m amazed and inspired by all that you and Donny have accomplished over the years, and it’s such an honor to be along for the ride! One of the reasons I love your blog is that you keep things real and share things like this, which we can all relate to! Thank you for that. 🙂
    I went to a seminar this year about fear, and learned that fear is the root of all negative emotion, even if it’s a fear that you won’t be able to cope with a negative outcome or experience. When yoi acknowledge the fear, you take away irs power, but you also can connect deeply with other people who share these raw insecurities.
    Thank you for keeping it real and pushing forward! Your words continue to inspire so many people and we will continue to follow your journey. Don’t be afraid to be who you are and speak the Truth! We all need a little more love (and organization!) and a little less fear in this crazy world! <3 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thanks so much for your sweet words and encouragement, Bridget! I appreciate you following along and am wishing you a wonderful 2018! Hugs! <3

      ~Abby =)

  56. I was just talking to my husband this week about how I think fear might be my problem. I’ve been feeling bored and unmotivated, lacking passion, etc. And I came to the uncomfortable conclusion that it is fear. I NEVER understood when speakers and trainers would talk about this ‘fear’ of…success or failure…but now I do. You are right, it doesn’t always present itself clearly, it sneaks up on you. I sent your post to my hubby and said, “It’s like she wrote this for me!” Thank you for sharing your thoughts, it’s definitely an encouragement. I also love that you are honest about your faith, it’s part of who you are and nothing to be afraid or ashamed of. Here’s to ‘Punching Fear in the Face in 2017’!!! Bless you and Thank you!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Let’s do it, Heather! Sending you hugs and wishing you all the best (and lots of courage!) in 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  57. Abby,
    I find you very inspirational!! You have a lot of great things to share and you make it seem easy. I enjoy reading your blog with my coffee. It’s like having coffee with a friend.
    Have a wonderful 2018!!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, I’m so glad, Kim! I love that, thank you! I hope your year is off to an awesome start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  58. Thank you for this post! Fear paralyzes me! I appreciate looking at things this way and love the Timothy quote!
    Your faith is yours! No one can/should question it. It is what you believe! I am grateful for my faith as well.
    Thank you for sharing!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for the encouragement, Nancy! I appreciate it. Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  59. Susan Hoyle says:

    So thankful that I looked at your email today and followed the link to this blog post! It was exactly what I needed to hear! I too really struggle with fear and sometimes the words in my head that say I’m not smart enough, I’m not good enough are really loud. My word for this year is Release. My goal is to Release my fear, my perfectionism, and my self doubt to name a few. Please keep doing what you do! <3

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Love that, Susan! That’s a great word! Sending hugs your way and wishing you a wonderful 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  60. I’m glad you brought up your faith and the Bible verse. At first I was afraid of bringing up God too much on my blog, for similar reasons as you, but I always ended up beating around the bush and not really saying what I wanted to say. It encourages me to see other bloggers share openly about their faith and reminds me that many people do want to hear about it.
    Also, I find that when I look to the biggger picture for why I am doing something, it makes those slump periods less important, because I know what I really care about. Keep it up, and thank you for sharing this post.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You are so right, Marie! Thank you so much for the encouragement! I hope 2018 is off to a wonderful start for you! <3

      ~Abby =)

  61. Lisa West says:

    Love this post! I admire your transparency and generosity, which were evident throughout. You didn’t have to share any of those words with us. But I’m so glad you did. Thank you for stepping out on that limb and offering such an intimate glimpse of your life. After each paragraph, I found myself saying, “Me too!” It’s always comforting to find out we’re not alone. Thanks for simply being you. Which is more than enough. 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Oh, Lisa. You are too sweet! Thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement. I truly appreciate it! Wishing you a wonderful 2018, friend! Hugs! <3

      ~Abby =)

  62. Karen Spencer says:

    Abby, you are so sweet and I appreciate your blog so much!!! I would be sad if you stopped blogging (hugs)!!! I am a nurse (and have been for 29 years, yikes!) but have also had times in my career (and life otherwise!) where I compare myself to others “If only I could be as good of a nurse as that person, or be more outspoken like that person, etc, etc…” ….you expressed it so well in this blog post. I can also relate to you with the BRCA gene and preventative surgeries. I pray God continues to guide and bless you sweet lady. Thanks for all that you do!!!! Karen

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your sweet words of encouragement, Karen! I truly appreciate it. Wishing you an awesome 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  63. Wren Smart says:

    It’s so comforting to know a blogger I admire has the same fears and insecurities as I do. It was like you opened my journal and pulled a page straight out of it to quote in your post. Thank you for the candid “conversation”. Exactly what I needed to step past my fears and take m y blog to that next level! Wishing you a BEAUTIFUL 2018

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, so glad you enjoyed it, Wren! Thank you for reading. I hope your year is off to a great start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  64. I want to start a small business from home this year. Your post has encouraged me to take the first step. While reading I realised that fear of failure is holding me back. Thank you! May 2018 be awesome for us all.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yay! So glad it was helpful for you. Wishing you all the best with your business, Elizna! Have a wonderful 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  65. Just what I needed this morning. I’ve known this was my problem for a year now with my home business, but it is simply nice to know someone else has the same fears and I’m not alone. I’ve been wanting to make a change in what I am doing, but not sure it will be a success. Odd thing is, I quite my full-time job in 2009 and started a sewing business with no clients, in the middle of the recession, and was 49 years old. So now I’m 57 and still want to keep my sewing business but change the direction and the services I offer….FEAR big time set in a year ago. I have everything I need to make the change I just need to do it and trust the Lord for the out come like I did in 2009. Thanks for your boldness and believe me sharing your faith is always a risk, but God commands us to do it and once one can remember it’s Him they are rejecting and ones self it gets a little easier 🙂 Blessings and keep on keeping on, praising the Lord for ALL He is doing in your life. A sister in Christ.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your encouragement, Lou Ann! I truly appreciate it. Wishing you a wonderful 2018 and the faith and courage to make your dream come true! You can do it! Hugs! <3

      ~Abby =)

  66. K Ann Guinn says:

    Thank-you for sharing this, Abby! I also write “raw” posts about what’s really going on inside, and this one resonates with me right now for sure!

    Last year was not what I expected in so many ways. The big things were my cutting my finger tendon and having surgery and a surprisingly long recovery in the spring, and then the news that my husband suddenly needed bypass surgery this fall with the subsequent “big” surgery (five bypasses!), hospital stay, and home recovery. He’s doing nicely now, by the way, and we’re so thankful. These life-interrupting events are my big excuses, but truth be told, I’ve been struggling through life/job changes for the past few years.

    And about the fear. I am 51 years old (and have been a Christian almost as long), so you would think I had conquered it by now……but no, I am still dealing with fears, some I’ve had my whole life.

    I’m ready to start a new, fear-free year with you. I’m joining you for planning in a couple of days and just pre-ordered a book about exercising faith over fear. Trusting God that he will be faithful to move us from right where we find ourselves today.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Wow! It sounds like you have had a lot on your plate this past year! Sending you hugs and wishing you a wonderful, faith-filled 2018! “See” you on Monday! <3

      ~Abby =)

  67. Thank you for sharing this! I never would have guessed that you struggle with these things, too, and it’s so encouraging to see that even someone at your level of success has to push through fear. That means that I can do it, too! I’ve been paralyzed by fear a LOT lately. I’ve been wanting to start a blog but haven’t yet because writing scares me sooooo much. It feels like I’m going to be graded like I was in college and so it keeps me from taking action. I have to separate this kind of writing in my mind from that kind of writing. I know it will take time but it’s paralyzing right now! But I know that I have to get used to pushing past fears because there will always be new, scary things to face!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      I know how scary it can be. Just start writing. Your writing will get better and better as you do it and you’ll gain more confidence with each post. Sending hugs your way and wishing you the best on your blogging journey, Faith! <3

      ~Abby =)

  68. Hey Abby – so grateful for your authenticity. You and Donnie have earned a platform in this cluttered online world. Your message is fun, positive and clear.
    Hope you didn’t have a vulnerability hangover (that’s my specialty) after posting this because it is clear that many of us needed your message today.
    I sure understand the fear of negative comments. I received my very first one a few months ago and it was a doozy – especially since it specifically targeted on of my teens. I know you are pushing through this, but I thought this might be an encouragement? (hope it’s okay to share here). https://www.lightlyfrayed.com/dear-mom-want-to-hide/
    We need you. We need your voice. Thanks for reminding us that serving can be messy even when it looks polished and perfect on the outside.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your sweet words of encouragement and for sharing your post with me! I’m sorry you had to deal with that negative comment… they certainly are no fun, especially when it involves your kids. (Seriously?!? Sheesh.) Sending you hugs and wishing you a wonderful 2018, friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  69. Christine says:

    Kudos to you for integrating your faith in your blog. I’m am a believer and it is nice to read your posts that include scriptures. You will gain a new sector of followers!! But I am so glad you shared this post because I never would have thought you dealt with fear! And it helped me to press on to complete my goals being I struggle with fear too! God bless my friend and who kiss maybe God is taking you on a new journey to integrate different aspects of Him in your work. I’ve been putting off my blog for a year now. I think it’s time.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yay! Wishing you the best on your blogging journey, Christine! I appreciate your sweet comment. Have a great weekend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  70. Abby,
    You are spot-on, and your post is one I will read & re-read over the next weeks and months as I face down my fears and obstacles. Thanks for the infusion of motivation! God bless you.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Dena! Wishing you a wonderful 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  71. What a wonderfully encouraging post! We all struggle with fear, and recognizing it is hard. Thanks for being real with you followers – it means a lot!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it, Rachel! Thanks so much for your encouragement! Have a great weekend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  72. Abby, thank you so much for opening up your heart and sharing your struggles. Sometimes it’s nice to hear that someone else that is successful is having the same struggles as myself. Not that I wish any struggles or ill-will against anyone; it’s just that I too compare myself to others, and think everyone has it together and I’m the only one that doesn’t. Your post has really touched me, Abby, as I have been struggling with self-doubt and self-sabotage. I thought something was definitely wrong with me, but after reading your post, I too realize that I’m paralyzed with fear.Everything you said in your post, I can relate to. Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. You are an amazing woman, Abby, and you have talents that God gave you to share with others. Keep doing what you are doing, and I can’t wait to see all the exciting things you have planned in 2018!!! Blessings ~

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for your sweet and encouraging words, Michelle! Sending hugs and praying that you have a wonderful and courage-filled 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  73. Thanks for your honesty, its just what I needed to hear! May God bless you and your family and may you continue to shed His light for all of us!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Linda! Wishing you a wonderful 2018!! <3

      ~Abby =)

  74. Hey Abby:

    Powerful post – really felt uplifted because I have been dealing with that in my life and business and sometimes feel overwhelmed. It is comforting to know I am not alone and this is a hump many of us have to overcome.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You certainly are not alone, Leslie! Sending hugs and wishing you a fearless 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  75. Thank you SO much for writing this! God uses you to speak directly to my heart today. Fear can be so sneaky and insidious that we just cant see it for what it is. Satan came to kill, steal, and destroy. Fear is his main weapon, but God overcame and we have everything we need to “punch fear in the face”.

    Happy 2018 and thank you again!
    Jennifer

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yes! Amen! I’m so glad it was helpful for you, Jenny. Thanks for reading. Wishing you a wonderful 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  76. Abby, this post was perfect! It is just what I needed to hear and what I have been wanting to say as well. It’s always nice to know that you’re not alone in a struggle or a season of life. Thank you for being brave enough to share your thoughts and feelings. It really resonated with me.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      I’m so glad it was helpful for you, Jenny! Thanks for reading! Sending hugs your way and wishing you a fabulous 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  77. Abby, I am happy that you have identified your “icky feeling” and that it is something we can help you deal with. When I stumbled upon your posts years ago, I was so excited to know there were others out there who loved to organize as much as I did…and when you started blogging, doing videos, etc., my excitement grew. Watching you and your family work towards helping and sharing your experiences with “us” is truly uplifting. I can understand your hesitation in sharing your faith comments, but I truly believe that those that follow you accept you for who YOU are – all of you! You keep up the excellent work you do and don’t worry about us – we love you!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your sweet words of encouragement and for following along on our journey. I truly appreciate it. I hope you’ve had a wonderful start to 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  78. Kudos to you, Abby, for being brave, and transparent, and vulnerable. Your message will resonate with a lot of people…me included. And thank you for stepping out in faith to proclaim your faith. He will bless you for putting your lamp out on a stand to shine for others. And “if He is for us, who can be against us?” God Bless you!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Amen! Thank you so much for the encouragement, Kim! I’m so glad it was helpful for you! Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  79. I’ve been struggling this last year as well, but I’m at the beginning of my blog days. After reading this post I realized that fear is a large part of what has been holding me back.

    Thank you for sharing and encouraging.

    Here’s to a productive and fearless year for all of us.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yes, Jennifer! Let’s do it! Wishing you the best on your blogging journey… enjoy! <3

      ~Abby =)

  80. Abby,

    This blog post was so real and relatable for me I can’t even describe it. It’s like you were in my head and verbalized everything I have thought and had trouble communicating and understanding. Your definitely not alone! Your blog brings so much joy to me you don’t even know! I feel like fear is so easy to take over us especially with so much social media surrounding us constantly and always at the tip of our fingers showing us how fearless and successful everyone else is. I hope this is something all of us can overcome and use it to our advantage. Your awesome so please don’t ever feel inadequate.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thank you so much for your encouragement, Carolyn! It certainly is an easy trap to fall into! Sending you hugs and wishing you a wonderful and fearless 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  81. Lauren Lanker says:

    So much love for you and solidarity in what you shared. I, too, have been fighting fear (my whole life it seems). And by God’s grace, He has and is helping me face my fears, surrender them to Him, and put up my blinders to the world so I focus on Him and His will alone. Suddenly, all my fears vanish! And I can pick up the tasks that I was previously paralyzed by.

    This is an everyday battle. And as a recovering perfectionist, one I may fight for the rest of my life. But each year, the fight gets a little better. And honest, vulnerable stories like this one from a kindred spirit like yourself bolster my courage for the days ahead.

    Thank you for letting us in to this part of your story, Abby. We readers recognize so much of ourselves in it! And are encouraged.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you for sharing your heart, sweet friend! I so relate! Hugs and prayers for a wonderful, fearless 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  82. This post was Amazing! My forties have been a challenge because of fear and overthinking! So far my two resolutions this year is to worry less and balance more. But I am going to add this one to it. It didn’t dawn unto me until your post about the power of fear and how much I have allowed it to influence so many decisions in my life. Thanks for sharing this and as a fellow Christian I spend a lot of time worrying about offending and hurting other people with my values. But that has to stop! All I can do is try my best and work with positive intentions. Because of your blog, I actually had a seed planted of starting a blog but I have made convenient excuses of why it hasn’t started yet. Thanks for sharing this with us. In 2018, my frenemy Fear and I are going to break up!!!!!! Hugs!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yesss! You go girl! You can do it! Sending hugs and wishing you all the best this year, Jeanette! <3

      ~Abby =)

  83. Roz Morgan Kavander says:

    Hi Abby I have struggled to get a good website (not tech savvy) I seem to find unscrupulous web developers. My website was down more than it was up. My business suffered. I was discouraged and paralyzed.. I volunteered to develop a color program for , CMG (Color Marketing Group). Had no idea what I was doing but I know color. This is a 50 year old organization has members from all over the world who choose colours for car companies, paint corporations, stores, appliances, bottles that contain everything you can imagine etc.. I introduced it at our international conference this year, over 60 people came a day early to attend. Overwhelming. I’ve been invited to talk High Point and was elected to the Board of Directors. My new website will come out in the next week. I will start with a Blog on Design Trends 2018.
    When I read your blog this morning on, why we will not reach our goals this year, I could not help but nod in agreement. I appreciated your honest vulnerability that you so openly shared with us. I know that despite all my success in the last three months, I am not out of the woods. Fear is there to whisper in my ear every doubt and insecurity that I harbour. I will hold close your sweet words knowing I am not alone in this fight against fear. Thank you

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you! Sounds like you have made wonderful progress… wishing you a fabulous 2018!

      ~Abby =)

  84. Terri Evans says:

    This post was the best “new year’s” post I’ve read. It is as if you were reading it straight from my heart. I let fear get in my way when it comes to trying something new or taking risks. I also let m self get too busy to work towards my real dreams, settling with the status quo.

    Thank you for sharing so honestly your challenge with fear. It makes me feel empowered to know I am not alone in fear.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      I’m so glad it was helpful for you, Terri! I’m sending hugs and wishing you a wonderful (and courage-filled!) 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  85. Abby,
    Thank so much for your vulnerability and willingness to allow God to use you. Your transparency has inspired me (fighting fear recently as well) to continue the good fight! (I Tim 6:12). I’m in my first year of blogging and it’s a SLOW road, but worth it if we’re able to encourage, uplift and grow together.

    All the best,

    Carla

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thank you, Carla! I’m so glad it was helpful for you! Just keep getting a little better each day. You can do it! Wishing you the best on your blogging journey! <3

      ~Abby =)

  86. I hope you know what an inspiration you are to so many people, not just based on your success as a blogger, but also for your ability to capture emotions that many of us face but can’t always articulate. Last year, I developed all of the infrastructure for a blog, thanks in part to your tutorials and newsletters. My website has been up for nearly half a year now, but I haven’t written a single post yet. Like you, I’ve been hiding behind a “busy-ness” excuse. I’ve also been telling myself that my site needs to be more polished before I can start marketing it. Well, enough of that. I’m diving in and putting my fears aside. It might be a little clunky and messy at first, but isn’t everything in life that way? 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yesss!!! You go girl! Sending hugs and cheering you on, Crissy! You can do it! <3

      ~Abby =)

  87. Debra Sams says:

    Abby, I love your blog and posts. I enjoy seeing the new things you do, or changes you make. I think your tips are wonderful, and even better, doable. Keep those posts coming. I look forward to reading from you. Here’s to a wonderful 2018!?

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much, Debra! I really appreciate the encouragement! I hope your year is off to an awesome start! <3

      ~Abby =)

      1. Debra Sams says:

        My New Year is going along well thanks.
        I am looking forward to seeing your finished product.

  88. Cindy Magee says:

    You are the most successful blogger I know of and I appreciate you being so open about how fear was creaping up in your life. Makes me feel like OK, so I’m not the only one! 🙂 Thanks for the encouragement and reminder of 2 Timothy 1:7 “for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” .

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thank you, Cindy! So glad it was helpful for you! Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  89. I was reading ahead and skimming once I got to the part where you identified fear to see if you were going to share your faith and how to tackle that fear with God. So glad you did and honestly, this is a ministry and the Spirit will guide you in gentleness and love to share your faith when you stand with Hin against those fears. You can NEVER go wrong when sharing from your heart about all God is doing in your life and teaching you.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for the encouragement, Janna! I truly appreciate it. Hope your year is off to a wonderful start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  90. Katie@MySweetHomeLife says:

    Thank you so much for this Abby. I love so many aspects of blogging but the one that fills me with dread and makes me want to not do it is my weekly newsletter. Your post has helped me see why. I have fear that my message won’t hit the mark I hoped for, that they will think what I say is foolish, and that they will unsubscribe. I still feel a real cut when I see those numbers after one goes out- much more so than a blog post or social media post. So thank you – I guess like all things, the only way out is to work through it.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      I can totally relate to that feeling! It is so hard to see those unsubscribes but you just have to remember that they must not be “your people”. Those who are will stick around and enjoy and encourage your work. Those are the people who you want on your list. It will get easier, friend. Hugs! <3

      ~Abby =)

  91. Amen, Abby. This is exactly what I needed to hear/read today. We all get into our own heads and start second guessing ourselves. Just remember you are not alone and we together can tackle fear/self pity/procrastination etc. Thanks again and blessings to you and your family.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Beth! Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend and a great start to 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  92. Elizabeth giarmo says:

    Abby,

    I began writing a comment and the words spilled out of me. However, my comment was too long. As a writer I’m sure you know that efforts to re-do something you’ve already written are futile. It’s not the same.

    But, simply, thank you. Every single word spoke to me. Every single word is something I’ve said or felt. Fear has been a debilitating factor for me my entire life. I often feel like I little kid again, dreading the beginning of school. Fear is my demon, and I think God put your post in my line of view tonight. I have some work to do to best my demon. I’ve known for a long time that my demon manifests himself as fear, insecurity, low self esteem, anxiety, etc…. but I haven’t been very good at overcoming it. Maybe this year will be my year. Until an hour ago, I’ve moved into 2018 feeling completely numb and scared. Maybe tomorrow I can wake up with a newfound sense of hope.

    I’d love to be able to send my full comment to you if at all possible. Thanks again for sharing.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Hi, Elizabeth! Feel free to email me at hello {at} justagirlandherblog {dot} com. Sending hugs your way and prayers for peace and hope, sweet girl! <3

      ~Abby =)

  93. Thank you for sharing this! I block myself far too often because of fear – fear of failing, fear of being criticized, fear of not being enough or accomplishing enough. This was just the kind encouragement and inspiration I needed to read tonight! Thank you!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Hannah! Hope you have a wonderful week! <3

      ~Abby =)

  94. Love this post for so many reasons. Thanks for sharing Abby!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad you enjoyed it, Beverley! Thanks for reading! <3

      ~Abby =)

  95. Abby!! This was a great post and similar to one that I have been working on. I am overthinking and over feeling and taking it all so serious and personal ALL THE TIME! Seeing that you – someone who has been so successful at blogging – struggles too, helps me feel OK!! I feel validated. I feel like we are all so different yet so much the same. I am trying to go into the new year with less pressure on myself. More grace. More enjoying and less comparing. Thank you for sharing your heart today. Best of luck in 2018!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, I’m glad it was helpful for you, Gabby! I hope you have a fabulous and fearless 2018! Hugs, friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  96. Martha Cantu says:

    Thank you so much for you lovely post. As I was reading your post, I kept mentally agreeing with you because that is also how I feel, but I also kept saying to myself, “But God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of …”

    When I read the scripture in your post, I felt the confirmation of scripture. Thank you and God bless you!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for your encouragement, Martha! Have a wonderful week! <3

      ~Abby =)

  97. Love this so much! I’m fighting through a season of fear also and, while I believe it to be a normal, human experience, I do not believe it is how God wants me to live. It’s so true, fear keeps us from living our purpose. So proud of you for recognizing this and meeting it head on! Here’s to “doing things scared” in 2018!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Let’s do it, Kasey! Wishing you a wonderful 2018! Hugs! <3

      ~Abby =)

  98. Hi Abby, thanks so much for sharing. It sounds like a lot of us needed to hear that we aren’t the only ones dealing with fear. I’ve had my blog for 3 years now and fear has held me back from taking it to the potential I know it has. This too is going to be my year for conquering Mr Fear.
    It shouldn’t matter what faith any of us have, no matter what if it comes from the heart it’s truth. Whether people are ready to hear it or not.
    Stay true to you.
    Here’s to everyone in the pursuit of kicking Fear’s butt.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Let’s do it, Janine! Thanks so much for the encouragement, sweet friend! Wishing you a wonderful 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  99. This almost brought me to tears just now. Holy Spirit is really speaking to me through your post. 2017 was the start of pursuing a dream of mine, and in order for me to take 2018 to the next level, there are some fears that need to bounce. Thank you so much for your boldness to be vulnerable. Praying your 2018 is dripping with ridiculous favor!! ;0P

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for reading, Katie! Praying that you have a wonderful and fearless 2018! Hugs, my friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  100. Thanks so much for sharing such sweet and honest words.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for reading, Leona! Have a wonderful week!

      ~Abby =)

  101. Isabel Freitas says:

    What an amazing post. I was dying of curiosity! I really wanted to know what you would talk about when the title you gave to the post was so negative. I knew it wouldn’t be boring or negative, but I really wanted to know where that was all coming from. I’m so happy that you finally figured out what that feeling was. I’m glad you know it’s fear and that you can now “punch in right in the face” as you said yourself! God is so amazing that He allowed you to figure this out before you made a huge step that maybe wouldn’t be the right one!

    I have had many blogs before my last one. All of them as a hobby. I’ve always feared sharing my faith on them and in my social media channels. Until one day in the service, when he clearly spoke to me. It was so amazing. I cried and cried and cried and I could clearly hear Him telling me that He gave me the talent I have so that I could also blog about Him and His word. That’s what I’ve been doing in a bold way. But I definitely have fear of a lot of other things when it comes to blogging. I haven’t made any videos yet, especially live videos. And I’m not sure I will have the courage to make them anytime soon! ?

    I definitely felt encouraged by your post, though. Thanks for sharing all of this, Abby.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You go girl! Love that you are stepping out of your comfort zone and sharing what you’re being called to share. Wishing you a blessed 2018, friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  102. Thank you so much, Abby, for being true to God and to yourself. It took courage to step out and say how you felt. I know that we are all so very glad you did. I am in the works of creating a blog and have been having some of the same thoughts. I can’t get away from the idea. I know that God is going to use it for His good. However, some of the things I don’t want to struggle with are things like you mentioned about not misrepresenting God. A friend assured me that she was sure God would guide my words and I should worry about it. Just to trust God. I think you have a wonderful blog and if God is behind it, who can be against it. No fear in 2018 sounds pretty good to me, too. 😉
    God bless,
    Debbie

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for your sweet words, Debbie! You are so right! Praying that you feel peace and his guidance as you embark on your blogging journey this year! Enjoy! <3

      ~Abby =)

  103. Tracy Boyd says:

    Thank you for spilling your guys & being so open & transparent! Sometimes bloggers & Pintrest makes me feel so inadequate because it’s usually a perfect life, room, project, idea, etc. So, your honesty is not only refreshing but was completely an eye opener for me because it made me realize I have become fearful of trying to venture out with pursuing my craft business. Hopefully your words will give me the strength to just try! So, thank you! And Happy New Year!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Tracy! Wishing you all the best as you pursue your craft business… You can do it! <3

      ~Abby =)

  104. Carol Klingensmith says:

    I am new(ish) to your blog and I love it. This post resonated with me very deeply because I know fear is what has held me back in pursuing my own passions and I feel paralyzed at times. I still haven’t started. I started thinking and researching this idea of mine in 2012. Yes, you read that correctly. Granted, I had major milestones that were happening (my two sons graduated high school, moved away to college, parent death, etc.) But everyone has that stuff and they deal. I think I used those things as a reason I couldn’t start and then it turned into the next new thing. Now I just feel stuck and ridiculous and I am really trying to get out of my own way. It is always a relief to hear others are dealing with similar things and it makes you feel not so alone and nuts!

    If your faith is important to you, you should definitely express it. As long as it isn’t coming from a place of preaching or judging, then I never take offense. I may not have the same beliefs, but I believe that people should be able to get what they need from whatever source they believe brings them peace, grace, love, compassion, etc. Maybe we can learn from each other no matter what religion or spiritual path we walk,

    I will reread this post when I need to remind myself to stop living in the fear and move in action.

    Thank you.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for the encouragement, Carol! I’m wishing you a wonderful and courage-filled 2018! Pursue your passions… you can do it, friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  105. Jesus is so faithful in leading us by His Holy Spirit just as He has opened your eyes to what was holding you back. Praise God !!!
    Sharing your heart with all of us exposed the lies of Satan and His schemes.
    I am so grateful I took the time to read your post today!!! I have been wanting to go back to school to get my RN but i have been afraid. I see that now. I have been an LPN for 14 years and I have been trully blessed to have worked
    in a hospital for 13 years. I am 56 today and
    nursing school is intense…all my friends are planning their retirement that are my age and I kinda want to do that as well, but the Lord has showed me not to compare myself and go back but then that FEAR sets in with all the ?’s. Finances, How will i work full time a go to school ….the list of “ reasons explodes. I follow Joyce Meyer and she
    often says, “do it afray””

    So …thanks for your timely words of encouragement to ALL of us !!! He is always on-time!!! Praying for you and your family
    today!!! Dont shrink back! Share your heart with us and get ready for Him to direct your
    blog!!! Your content is fabulous!!!I really enjoy your YouTube channel as well!! Hugs, Veda 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your sweet words of encouragement, Veda! I will be praying for you as you make your decision about nursing school. I’m sure it is tough, but I’m sure the Lord will provide direction and guidance. Hugs, friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  106. Hi Abby,
    This post touched me because you are the one who inspired me to start my blog. God put your blog and your books in my path and I decided that since there was a step-by-step plan, I could do this! I started my blog back in October! Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined that you struggle with the same things I do! Thank you for sharing these thoughts. Thank you for sharing your faith. Thank you for writing your books. They have all made a difference to me and hopefully to my future. Theodore Roosevelt said “comparison is the thief of joy”. Girl you don’t need to compare yourself to anyone! See, you even inspired me to finally comment on a “big blog”! ❤️ Keep doing what you do. You are making a difference!!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thank you so much, Tamara! I truly appreciate the encouragement! I’m so glad BAF has been helpful for you… love to hear that! Cheering you on and wishing you all the best on your blogging adventure! Enjoy! <3

      ~Abby =)

  107. Lisa Burns says:

    It’s amazing the power fear can have over us, if we let it! Speaking my fears out loud often takes the power out of them and liberates me to just be me- flaws and all.

    As Christians, we are called to be salt and light. Mt 5:13-16 Don’t let fear cause you to hide your light, Abby. You have gifts worth sharing.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for the encouragement, Lisa! You are so right! <3

      ~Abby =)

  108. Hi Abby …
    You are such an inspiration…I found you on Pro-Organizer Studio interview. I am starting a pro-organizing business this month and you just nailed in the head , how fear can paralyze us. I find it so hard to write in English and I am very conscious of that. But God is so good that He bless me with a very energetic personality. I am thinking to do a Vlog instead, in this way I can still be in touch with ppl. I sold my other business 3 years ago and I haven’t been this excited about a new adventure since. Thank you for the encouragement and honesty. Much success and blessings in 2018 .xo

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thank you so much! Cheering you on and wishing you all the best as you start your new business… how exciting! Hugs! <3

      ~Abby =)

  109. Amen! Great post! You are creative and I am blessed by your sharing and talents .. and love your decorating … your new office is beautiful!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thanks so much, Brenda! Hope you have a wonderful week! <3

      ~Abby =)

  110. debbie stolle says:

    Clearly, with so many comments, you have to know you are enough! I love what you shared today…all of it. Your humility shines through when you write or speak. God has placed you here for such a time as this and mixing it up with home decor and organization and God, well I hope you do. The posts that I have had the most genuine feedback on, not pins or shares, but real connections have been those where I have shared my faith. God is the ultimate encourager and being able to pass that on may be why He has blessed you with such a huge platform of influence.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Oh, Debbie! Thank you so much for your sweet words of encouragement! I truly appreciate it! I hope your year is off to a great start! Hugs, friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  111. I’m so glad you shared this! I am a newer blogger and definitely struggle with many of the things you talked about. Honestly, I would never have imagined you struggled with fear or self doubt, because you present yourself in such a positive way and are ALWAYS so helpful and encouraging in your posts. Thank you for opening up and being so honest with your feelings. It’s a breath of fresh air to see that very successful and experienced bloggers can have the same feelings, not just those of us striving to be like you! 🙂 I hope you have a great 2018 and punch fear in the face!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thank you so much for your sweet words, Amanda! I appreciate the encouragement. Wishing you an awesome and fearless 2018! Enjoy your blogging journey! <3

      ~Abby =)

  112. Gerry Wood-Chromick says:

    Hello Abbey,
    Great post! I’m going to book mark this. Fear of not having anything more to say is mainly what prompted me to change my blog from frugal living to book reviews. Reading was my busy-ness excuse, so I changed it to something positive and I am enjoying my blog more now.
    Honestly though, Abbey I think you can blog about different ways to grind a stone into sand and your unique voice and ministry will always find an audience who needs it.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      You are so sweet! Thank you for your encouragement, Gerry! I’m glad you have found your way with your blog… it can take time! It definitely did for me, too! Hope your year is off to a great start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  113. Beth Anne says:

    Abby, I’m so glad you’re not giving up on blogging. You’re AMAZING at it! I thought this post was really well done (even though you felt it was less polished than normal – I thought it was spot on!)

    I totally get that fear component, and the comparison game. This online biz world can be stressful and there are always thousands of other amazingly talented people doing fabulous things! It’s so easy to feel like we don’t have enough to offer.

    But this past year I’ve doubled down on focusing on my own life – what’s most important to me? What brings me joy? What is God calling me to do?

    And I no longer think about the “shoulds” that the outside world might put on me. There’s no comparison because I know I don’t want to be anybody else! I love my life and every day I’m just focused on finding the joy right here. It sounds like you’re doing the same. Keep going! There are loads of people who love everything you do and want to hear from you, and they’re not comparing you to anyone else 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for the encouragement, BA! <3

      ~Abby =)

  114. Sabrina | ChristianMomsDesire says:

    Abby, thanks God for using you to encourage me today. I fell like giving up and I feel hopeless. I don’t know if I should pursue being a Mompreneur. I fear that nobody will like my product or website. Most of the time I feel that I’m not good enough.
    Thank you for reminding me of 2 Tim.1:7. I believe God made me to do this – help Christian mothers.
    Continue to write what is in your heart. You are a blessing to many. God bless!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Oh, Sabrina! I am sending hugs your way this morning. I know how scary it can be at the beginning when you’re considering stepping out of your comfort zone and how much doubt and fear can creep in! Praying that you find peace and direction in your decision. You are good enough! Cheering for you! <3

      ~Abby =)

  115. Tamara Burchell says:

    Thank you for following God’s leading to write this post about fear. God has used your words to speak directly into my heart. I read it yesterday, but I came back to it today to take notes. Thank you again Abby.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, I’m so glad it was helpful for you, Tamara! Hugs, friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  116. Wow, what a great post and look how many people it was helpful too:) Yes, I was homeschooling our children and because of fear I put them in school and now they all want to be homeschooled again. Praying for direction!
    Also, I’m sure it’s listed on your blog but would share the paint color in the pics, please? I love it!! Happy 2018!!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much, Becca! Praying that you find the answers and direction that you need! The color in the picture is Sherwin Williams Rainwashed. I LOVE it, too! 🙂 Hope your year is off to a great start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  117. This post really resonated with me and I am so grateful for your words of encouragement. Thank you for sharing your real life struggles with us. You are doing an incredible job!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for the encouragement, Tracey! I’m so glad it was helpful for you! Hope 2018 is off to an awesome start for you! <3

      ~Abby =)

  118. Susan Champion says:

    Thank you, Abby. This was definitely God-led. I needed to read these words today. Thank you for sharing these thoughts.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thanks so much for the encouragement, Susan! I’m so glad it was helpful! Hope your is off to a great start! <3

      ~Abby =)

  119. Vania Henry says:

    Thank you, Abby for such a beautiful post. I love your honesty and transparency. Fear is a big one for me as well as comparison and I often find myself talking myself out of many things I would like to try. You encouraged me to not let fear stop me. Thank you for your openness with your faith, as well. I bought your blog training and was plugging along until coming up with a name. And I stalled and freaked out and told myself I don’t really have anything to share that hasn’t already been shared. And then I also am unsure of what direction and focus God is calling me to. So I am trying to listen for direction and the longings of my heart. I never have been much of a risk taker so writing, whether that is blogging or another avenue, scares me. But your encouragement is the push that I needed! Thanks!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      So glad it was helpful for you, Vania! Cheering you on and wishing you all the best on your blogging journey! Hugs, friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  120. My fear is finally launching my blog…and for many of the same reasons you listed in your post! Thank you so much for sharing this! I plan to overcome my fears this year so that I can see what greater things can come from those fears! Thanks again!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      That’s awesome, Dakota! Wishing you the best on your blogging journey! You can do it! Hugs! <3

      ~Abby =)

  121. Dina Araujo says:

    I don’t ususally comment on any post, but I felt I had to on this one. Thank you so much for being open to your struggles. This is exactly what I’m dealing with this week. An amazing opportunity has been handed to me and I’ve felt unequipped, not good enough. I know it is fear of failure. Your post is one more confirmation that I may not know what I’m getting myself into, but I can take it one step at a time, instead of saying “no” to this awesome opportunity.

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, so glad it was helpful for you, Dina! I’m so glad you have this opportunity that you’re excited about… that’s awesome! Wishing you the best and cheering you on! Hugs! <3

      ~Abby =)

  122. Amber Alise says:

    Hi Abby!

    What a beautiful post. The only power fear has is the power that we give it. I find it very interesting that you created this post. I found your blog a couple of weeks ago through create and go, and I was amazed by your journey. Your blog is creative, informative, and one-of-a-kind. I would have never thought that you were going through any of the things that you mentioned in this post. I think that it is important to remember that no one can be YOU. YOU created this platform, YOU created this world for yourself and for your family, and YOU have the power to take this blog as high as you want to take it. Even if someone creates something similar to you, they will never be YOU. Don’t worry about running out of ideas, your mind is full of them. Your brain will only stop creating if you allow it to. God has so much more in store for you. Keep going 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for your sweet words of encouragement, Amber! I truly appreciate them! I hope you’re having a wonderful weekend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  123. Amy Jones says:

    Thank you for this post. I have been feeling that way too this past year. I kept feeling off and had good intentions to blog, even writing it in my planner most days. I just never seemed to do it. I couldn’t seem to put my finger on it, but I think this post points to my problem. I use to love to blog. I have a Christian blog which can stir up trouble with some people. I usually don’t care what people think because I try to share God and be right Biblically, but for some reason, I was in such a slump. Thank you for sharing your heart because it helped me!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      I’m so glad it was helpful for you, Amy! I totally understand. It can be so hard to share, especially on topics that aren’t always popular. I’m sending hugs and cheering you on! You can do it! <3

      ~Abby =)

  124. Abby,
    This hit me in just the right way at just the right time and it looks like I’m not the only one! I’ve been “working on launching my blog” for over a year now (I bought Building A Framework a while ago and have re-read it because I took soooooooo long!). I really enjoy working on it, but as I’ve gotten closer it seems I’ve got more excuses not to finish and click publish. Work, life, a new baby, I’ve got all kinds of excuses up my sleeves, but reading this post today made me realize that I think fear is a big one. Now that I realize it, I’ll be able to “combat” it more effectively and actually reach my goal this year! Thank you, I love reading your work 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thanks so much, Kayla! I’m so glad it was helpful for you! Cheering you on and wishing you the best on your blogging journey! You can do it! <3

      ~Abby =)

  125. Hi Abby, I just want to say that I’ve been reading your blog for I think a couple of years now and you and Donny are fantastic!! I’m amazed how well you both work together and think it is awesome that you guys are able to do this full time. You are so great at everything blogging!!! You are always inspiring, encouraging, and fun! I love your honesty about life and how you are not perfect just like us all. Most of all I appreciate your courage to share your faith. I understand being somewhat afraid of offending people. But as a wise person once told me, “you can choose to be offended or not”. I think your loving heart speaks through your blog and nothing you have ever said was meant to offend anyone. Keep up the great work! To God be the Glory!

    In Christ,
    Jenee

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your sweet words of encouragement, Jenee! I truly appreciate you reading and following along on our journey! Hope you’re having a wonderful week! <3

      ~Abby =)

  126. James Doherty says:

    I know this feeling so well. I started blogging about 9 months ago. It was a daunting task and I had so much anxiety when I launched the blog. I have set a commitment to consistently blogging 2-3 a week for 5 years. I want to live from it full time by the end of December 2019. There is constant self-doubt and fear that I cannot do it but I’m going to battle through and keep going regardless. It is encouraging to hear that someone as successful as you deal with fear too. Keep up the inspiring work. 🙂 My blog is http://www.scantilydad.com by the way 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much for sharing your blog, James! I love it! There aren’t many blogs that share from the father’s perspective… I think it’s so awesome! And needed! Keep up the great work!

      ~Abby =)

      1. James Doherty says:

        Thanks so much Abby. I’m blushing. 🙂 I have share your blog with my wife she loves it.

  127. Hi Julie, my name is Michelle. I’ve been reading your blog for a few months now and you are one of the many bloggers that has inspired me that I can make a living doing what I love! Which is writing, organizing and trying to help others. This post really resonated with me because I”m such a shy person and I have let fear basically rule my life in so many different ways. Like you, I have to keep pushing myself and not let fear take control anymore. I’m determined to break out of my shell and keep facing my fears to accomplish all my goals. I wish you the best in facing your fears too! Thank you for posting this. It means so to know that I’m not alone.

    Keep going and keep doing your thing! There is more power in being yourself. 🙂

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thanks so much, Michelle! So glad the blog has been helpful for you! Here’s to a fearless 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  128. I found this entry today and feel like you read my mind. I started blogging last summer, and it just came so easily at first and all of a sudden I started hitting that same yucky road block you talked about. Now that I know what it is, I’m doing my best to push through it to the other side. I wish you luck with that also!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Yes, you go girl! Cheering you on and wishing you all the best on your blogging journey! <3

      ~Abby =)

  129. In practicing my well established ritual of avoidance this morning, I checked pinterest and found some very uplifting posts. Then I saw someone posted this post, and I thought “who does she think she is telling me I won’t reach my goals this year!?!” So, I decided to read your post…..mostly to answer the question above. While reading the post, tears were streaming down my face. THIS WAS ME!!!! Not so much the blogging part, but the procrastination and the hesitation and avoiding fear. I mean, I am supposed to be studying (I am working on my second degree — at 55 — and my 5 year plan is to get my 2nd bachelor’s degree, my master’s degree, and sit for my CPA)…but instead I pull up all these squirrels. Now I know why I don’t feel motivated any more….and why I find so many other things to do except what I need to do to get something accomplished. THANK YOU!! You have touched my life, and have set me on a path to prove the title of your post incorrect…..I WILL reach my goals this year!! Much love and success to you!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Thank you so much for your sweet words, Norma. I’m so glad the post was helpful for you. I think we all have seasons where we feel this way. Wishing you a wonderful and fearless 2018! <3

      ~Abby =)

  130. Sheila Fish says:

    Thank you so much for opening up in this blog post. First I want you to know that I hope you will share more about your spiritual journey. None of us are perfect and none of us know all things about the scriptures but we are on a journey. We are here to encourage one another and lift each up in prayer. I want you to know you and your family are in my prayers. Secondly I have been wanting to start a blog but fear has been stopping me. I love your blog and many of your posts have helped me. I want to start a blog of my own for many reason and I am going to be putting this before the Lord again. I hope I can put the fears behind me. By the way the scripture text you quoted from 2 Timothy is my favorite scripture verse. Thanks for continuing to blog. God bless you!

    1. justagirlabby says:

      Aw, thank you so much for your words of encouragement, Sheila. I truly appreciate them. Praying for you as you consider taking the next steps towards making your blog a reality! Hugs, my friend! <3

      ~Abby =)

  131. Fear has always been something that has tried to hold me back from achieving goals. Its so easy to tell yourself that something bad will happen or you wont be able to be successful. But sometimes you just have to tell yourself that you aren’t going to listen to that voice and you WILL be successful! Thank you for this post Abby! Sometimes it just takes reading some encouraging words to get those negative thoughts our of your head..

    1. Abby Lawson says:

      So glad to hear it was helpful for you, Mylisa! Sending hugs and cheering you on! 🙂 Have a wonderful week!

      ~Abby =)

  132. Adam McConnaughhay says:

    Wow, as someone doing blogging as a small side thing right now but hoping to have it continue to grow, this really is spot on as I’ve found myself a bit discourage lately too with my growth sort of plateauing over the past couple months. Great and inspirational post!

    1. Abby Lawson says:

      So glad it was helpful for you Adam! Love to hear that. Wishing you all the best on your blogging journey!

      ~Abby =)

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